To Be A Good Wife...Seriously
Ok so there was this site with a 50s poster with all this crazy primitive stuff like don't question your man on it. But in all seriousness, in your opinion what constitutes a good wife? I do not mean to exclude anyone who is not married, those of you who are single/not married I am sure you also have an opinion on this so please join in.
I am very irritated with my husband much these days, and this feeling is exacerbated by the fact that he is trying so hard, he is working really hard on himself and our relationship. But he just doesn't get what are to me fundamental ways of relating to the world, to other people, let alone me. Our marriage counselor is on vacation, so not getting to see her every week has me on edge. I am very quiet around Brian now, because I felt that the less I said the less he would say and thus the less chance for him to get on my last nerves. However, he is really trying to change and one of the things he is working on is being more open and verbal...so he is talking more. I suppose one of the things that makes a good wife is learning how to really listen to my husband.
Here is what I think makes a good wife. I am really struggling to do these things in my current state of mind...it's funny how it's so easy for me to do these things when I am all googly-eyed over Brian.Warning in advance I have some traditional views. It's ok if you don't agree with them. A good wife:
Listens to and is supportive of her husband
Is nice to husband; smiles at and touches him frequently
Does not hold grudges/past arguments against her husband
Is a fun friend to her husband
Maintains a clean and pleasant home
Cooks well and organizes meals and food shopping
Good with money/budgeting and if working a job/business, contributes money to the household
Maintains physical appearance, makes a daily effort to look cute/hot in ways husband finds appealing
Does not yell, verbally abuse or physically her husband
Tries new activities, makes an effort to learn about or like husband's interests/hobbies
Has friends and interests/hobbies of her own, does not cling to husband as sole friend
Respects husband's family ties
Makes an effort to spend quality alone time with husband (not counting sex)
I am very irritated with my husband much these days, and this feeling is exacerbated by the fact that he is trying so hard, he is working really hard on himself and our relationship. But he just doesn't get what are to me fundamental ways of relating to the world, to other people, let alone me. Our marriage counselor is on vacation, so not getting to see her every week has me on edge. I am very quiet around Brian now, because I felt that the less I said the less he would say and thus the less chance for him to get on my last nerves. However, he is really trying to change and one of the things he is working on is being more open and verbal...so he is talking more. I suppose one of the things that makes a good wife is learning how to really listen to my husband.
Here is what I think makes a good wife. I am really struggling to do these things in my current state of mind...it's funny how it's so easy for me to do these things when I am all googly-eyed over Brian.Warning in advance I have some traditional views. It's ok if you don't agree with them. A good wife:
Listens to and is supportive of her husband
Is nice to husband; smiles at and touches him frequently
Does not hold grudges/past arguments against her husband
Is a fun friend to her husband
Maintains a clean and pleasant home
Cooks well and organizes meals and food shopping
Good with money/budgeting and if working a job/business, contributes money to the household
Maintains physical appearance, makes a daily effort to look cute/hot in ways husband finds appealing
Does not yell, verbally abuse or physically her husband
Tries new activities, makes an effort to learn about or like husband's interests/hobbies
Has friends and interests/hobbies of her own, does not cling to husband as sole friend
Respects husband's family ties
Makes an effort to spend quality alone time with husband (not counting sex)
Labels: responsibilities, roles, wife duties
posted by Trula at
4:22 PM
3 Comments:
To me a good wife has to be a virtuous woman Proverbs 31:10-31. It might sound old fashioned but serving my dh and family brings me greater pleasure and sense of accomplishment then anything else that I have ever done. Seeing my dh thrive in his job and as a father and seeing my sons grow into wonderful men is the greatest gift ever!
I agree with much of what Tula says. I also think a good wife brings her husband to a greater degree of holiness. I believe praying together, going to Church together, and helping the husband be an upstanding virtuous man is important and are signs of a good wife.
thank you both, I appreciate your words. Chayil I am a Proverbs 31 woman! I read that almost daily; it humbles me and helps me stay focused on my family.
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