Crushes - Yes or No?

I got a question from a woman in a monogamous marriage asking me how do I feel about crushes. Well, hmmm.

I think it's perfectly natural and reasonable to be attracted to other people. Just don't give them too much head space.

I have to laugh because I had a crush on Lenny Kravitz for years, to the point where I would refer to him as 'my second husband' LOL! Anyway he's a safe crush because it's not like I'm going to run into him just randomly going about my regular business, or if I did it's not like he'd try to get with me, you know? So that's how I feel about crushes...if you are in a monogamous marriage it's probably best if you keep crushes at a distance to lessen the temptation to stray. Remember monogamy is not natural to human beings so you must safeguard your commitment to be faithful! Turn your feelings back onto your husband; flirt with him and give him the fast eye and frequent touches. He will probably mirror that back to you and get you all hot and bothered...after a few days of that you won't likely spend time thinking about your crush and you will be wrapped up in your husband again.

Nine Years Still Going Strong

2008 marks our ninth year of being married, twelfth year of being together, and 14th year of knowing each other. That's a lot of history, most of it good, and I'm excited about the future. My main marriage goals for this year are organizing our wedding renewal vows ceremony for next year and working on how I communicate with Brian. I have a feeling it's going to be a great year for us. Happy New Year!