Happy Valentine's Day Brian

Brian and I met December 1994 and our first date was Valentine's Day 1996. Ever since it has been our special holiday. So today I will list some things I dig about Brian.

If I had to pick one quality that I admire and love about my husband, it would be his aura of calmness. He exudes strength and stability. As an extremely sensitive, formerly high strung, easily excited person this aspect of his personality really attracted me.

He also has a higher than normal body temperature. I am a freeze baby so this is nice for both of us. We balance each other out. Sometimes when I stand next to him I can feel his body heat emanating off him in waves.

I really like that Brian is secure about himself, his opinions, his ideas. He can appreciate differences in others' opinions and rarely takes things personally. Another quality I like about him is his sense of humor. He is very funny and likes to laugh. Like me he enjoys being silly sometimes. He cracks me up.

I also like how Brian has a strong work ethic. He has taught me a lot about how to 'show up like a grown-up' as Dr. Robin says. At times he worked 3 jobs to take care of us. When he only had one job, he was in school full-time as well. This man worked all through college, both undergraduate and grad school. I am so proud of his tenacity in finishing school and going after the career he wanted.

I love how my husband treats me. He is very kind to me & affectionate. He makes an effort to be nice to me, and appreciative. I feel good being around him. I know I can rely on Brian and trust him. He is a friend to my heart.

I also like how my husband loves nature & being out in it. He enjoys biking and long walks in the woods. Winter, he likes long walks on the lake if it's frozen solid enough. Like me he is a throwback ha ha. We are very primitive, basic, natural people who appreciate the earth.

Weirdest quirk about my husband: he claims not to remember his dreams! I find this fascinating as I am lucid dreamer & have very vivid dreams. Back when I had insomnia really bad I would wake him up sometimes in the middle of the night just to see if he would remember what he was dreaming about. Um, Brian was not having that LOL.

I like how my husband is physically fit. When I gained a lot of weight, he took it in stride. When I wanted to get fit, he helped me a lot. He got us a family membership at the YMCA and exercised with me. He helped me work through my food issues by listening to me when I had a food crisis.

I love how he trusts in me and believes in me. It's one thing to trust someone, it's a whole other thing to have someone fully trust in you. It's a wonderful thing to have someone trust you with their heart and feelings. I take this responsibility seriously, with my heart. He feels the same way. I am so touched that my husband recognizes that my love is a gift; it's something precious to him.

When I met my husband he was 20 & I was 22. We started dating year I turned 24, he 22. This year we are 36 & 34. There has been a lot of growing up done, and yet so much more to do. I look at the boy & girl we were, we were so young! and so clueless what love was all about. But love bonded us, and sustained us through rough times.

I am excited about how our relationship will continue to grow as time goes on. The past 12 years have been such a ride! Happy Valentine's Day Brian! I love you with all my heart, and all my soul.

Originally posted to my twitter. Follow me for occasional marriage thoughts throughout the day