To Be A Good Wife...Seriously

Ok so there was this site with a 50s poster with all this crazy primitive stuff like don't question your man on it. But in all seriousness, in your opinion what constitutes a good wife? I do not mean to exclude anyone who is not married, those of you who are single/not married I am sure you also have an opinion on this so please join in.

I am very irritated with my husband much these days, and this feeling is exacerbated by the fact that he is trying so hard, he is working really hard on himself and our relationship. But he just doesn't get what are to me fundamental ways of relating to the world, to other people, let alone me. Our marriage counselor is on vacation, so not getting to see her every week has me on edge. I am very quiet around Brian now, because I felt that the less I said the less he would say and thus the less chance for him to get on my last nerves. However, he is really trying to change and one of the things he is working on is being more open and verbal...so he is talking more. I suppose one of the things that makes a good wife is learning how to really listen to my husband.

Here is what I think makes a good wife. I am really struggling to do these things in my current state of mind...it's funny how it's so easy for me to do these things when I am all googly-eyed over Brian.Warning in advance I have some traditional views. It's ok if you don't agree with them. A good wife:

Listens to and is supportive of her husband

Is nice to husband; smiles at and touches him frequently

Does not hold grudges/past arguments against her husband

Is a fun friend to her husband

Maintains a clean and pleasant home

Cooks well and organizes meals and food shopping

Good with money/budgeting and if working a job/business, contributes money to the household

Maintains physical appearance, makes a daily effort to look cute/hot in ways husband finds appealing

Does not yell, verbally abuse or physically her husband

Tries new activities, makes an effort to learn about or like husband's interests/hobbies

Has friends and interests/hobbies of her own, does not cling to husband as sole friend

Respects husband's family ties

Makes an effort to spend quality alone time with husband (not counting sex)